He Made A Way

Sep 15, 2024 | by The Fellowship

Perhaps you have been praying for the solution to some personal problems or issues in your life for a long time -- and it seems like God is not answering!  Please do not give up as I did not! God miraculously answered my prayers – but I had to keep my eyes on Him and trust in Him despite many ongoing, lengthy and negative circumstances!

I was married to a man with a beautiful heart whom God sent to be my husband. Unfortunately, we lost him unexpectedly in 2022 when he was 54 years old. It was the darkest moment of my life! 

Despite a great marriage, I had a very unhealthy relationship with his mother who never wanted to see anything good or positive in our union. She tried everything imaginable to sever our marriage, but because of my commitment to be a prayer warrior for others and for myself, all her efforts came to nought. She was unable to destroy our marriage.

So many times, this woman would utter words like: “She cannot be pregnant” in a situation where I was sick and my husband was wondering what could possibly be wrong with me. Or when she discovered that I was pregnant with our daughter, pushing at my expanding abdomen and asking: “What is this?” 

She extended the same harshness and dislike to our daughter when she was a baby.  While our girl was growing up, this grandmother, during family gatherings, showed much bias against her and in favor of her other cousins. The result was a rift between them that continues to this day.

So, it was a relief when my husband was transferred from our country in Africa to the United States in 2013. Our family was very happy in our Christian life here. In 2017, my husband was transferred back home. My daughter and I stayed in Texas so she could complete her schooling. That was when the devil started rearing its ugly head. 

My mother-in-law constantly pressured my husband to visit her, despite his complaint that the journey to her home was far away, difficult and stressful. During that period, there was a lot of manipulation against our marriage. So, my husband and I decided that I would go home to be with him once our daughter started college. Unfortunately, that was the same month we received the news that my husband had died.

Thus began a horrible nightmare. My mother-in-law flew in on the 4th day and demanded the keys to our locked bedroom be given to her. My brother-in-law flew in on the 7th day to take possession of everything. He had actually called me on the second day after my husband’s death to ask me for all property documents. That was extremely shocking because I was still trying to grasp the fact that my husband had just passed.

They made the burial arrangements very difficult because of unwillingness to accept any date I proposed. The mother berated me for taking only 30 days off work. She delayed the burial for four months. By the time everything was over, I lost my job.

As if that was not enough, my husband’s relatives officially contested that I and my daughter were the beneficiaries of his company’s death policy, claiming all sorts of lies they could not back up. Every loving contribution that friends and family made for my daughter and me was intercepted. Their excuse was his mother is old and needed assistance. The height of it all was when my brother-in-law insisted that he become one of the administrators of the estate. This is just a sampling of their scheming.

All in all, it became spiritual warfare. I never stopped ceaselessly praying morning and night and throughout every season. How thankful I am for the loving support from our pastors and friends at The Fellowship and my family! 

I never stopped believing that God will make a way! What should have taken three months to finalize eventually took 19 months. After so much opposition and antagonism from my in-laws, doors began to open suddenly and speedily … doors of favor, increase, employment. 

The Managing Director at my husband’s company finally got involved and ordered that all benefits be given to me and my daughter. The Human Resources Benefits Manager, who had caused all the delay, was relieved of his position. Other changes were made in company policy that were brought to light because of our case.

All praise to God for the victory we have in Christ. To God be all the glory. He is and will forever be a prayer-answering God!

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God;
I will strengthen you, I will help you.  I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. 
Isaiah 41:10